Online successes ARE possible, but require an open attitude plus realistic assessments.

If you feel the turn-on of an outside attraction, take the arousal feelings home to your partner…. repeatedly.

Virginity is a choice that calls for change only when you’re ready.

Providing the audience for an affair gives the “cheaters” added drama.

Patterns are NOT fixed in stone, but problems are, unless you use fresh approaches.

Affairs can never be dismissed lightly, because of their betrayal of trust.

Dating, even if exclusive, doesn’t mean long-term commitment until it’s agreed.

Be upfront in childcare cases about any serious abuse risks to your child, even from family.

Take your cues about how to be supportive from the person who’s experiencing sadness, worry, and grief.

After an affair, the work of staying together requires continued strategies that re-build trust.

If relationships keep ending badly, avoid new ones while you build self-confidence and selectivity.

When a partner blames you for all differences, the relationship’s doomed.

When everyone around you is difficult or problematic, work toward independence.

After a break-up over bad behavior, the person with serious issues should get help on his/her own. 

Before you judge others, check out your own self-image.

Adoptive children raised lovingly and equitably don’t forget that strong connection.

Adjusting equitably to a first baby is an important part of learning to parent together.

A controlling, cheating boyfriend usually becomes a nightmare husband. 

Whether to have a child should be a mutual decision, not a power struggle.

Researching and finding professional help is part of the process of confronting problems.

In-laws, who challenge their adult child’s mate, often lose out.

When you’re always waiting around, the other person doesn’t have to make a move.

For people with personal tragedies who need compassionate understanding, seek a select group of friends and potential dates.

When alarms sound, listen, talk, and consider a break.

It’s a huge world of strangers out there so pay attention to alerts and gut instincts.

Online Daters: Be selective, be alert to red flags, and stay positive! 

Online dating works best for those who make sure they feel good about themselves.

Men may face equally off-putting online dating experiences as women, but persistence often pays off.

When an in-law moves in, both sides need boundaries AND compassion.

It’s a legal (and moral) duty to report strong suspicions of sexual abuse of young people. 

You can see many happy marriages, if you remove the veil of cynicism.

Anyone’s sex drive can change, so, instead of labeling, look at root causes.

With a “rejected” spouse who’s verbally abusive, handle only children’s issues and/or seek mediation. 

If someone demeans and punishes you, end the relationship. Period.

While betrayal is infuriating, getting past it is liberating.

If you keep raising the past, it’ll keep dividing you.

When something’s “different” in a person, do some research for better understanding before you react.

Letting a marital problem fester out of fear, often creates worse problems.

A long successful marriage takes strong commitment and clear understandings.

Find out why your partner withholds sex, then decide whether to stay in the marriage, or leave.

Use “first love” as an opportunity to focus on the positives, not self- doubts.

If you take financial help, be prepared to help back.

When someone’s put a halt to being together as friends or lovers, don’t wait, just move on.

If a friend distances from you with good reason, sincere apologies may help, but not excuses.

Don’t let bad childhood patterns into your new relationship – work as a team.

So long as there are fears for children’s safety, it’s correct to raise concern.

Get a suicidal person access to help, before any further decisions.

Say what you want in a relationship – hanging on insecurely is as demeaning as playing games.

If you become The Rescuer, those who lean on you won’t try to improve themselves.

Internet Dating exposes you to far more people, but also to more risks, so proceed with caution.