I'm a 42-year-old male who fell in love with a wonderful woman, but she kept breaking up with me.
What bothered her most was masturbation.
I admitted that, when single, I'd touch myself and used pornography. I thought this was a normal part of male sexuality.
But she believes masturbation is wrong. She's also convinced pornography is too addictive a force for her to compete with. She feared I'd grow bored with her, and go back to porn.
My friends say she's being judgmental, selfish, and cruel.
Her friends say she's overreacting.
She thinks we should just agree to disagree.
I know we could be happy together, but the damage is done. I thought being truthful was a good thing for a relationship, but it's made us both miserable.
Your perspective?

- Uncertain

It IS best to be honest in a relationship; otherwise, the later discovery of topics you disagree widely on, will be even harder to bear.
While most people, like yourself, believe that masturbation is relatively common – (if not obsessive and/or interfering with normal relationships) - this woman has an immutable view against it.
Similarly, if viewing pornography is accepted by both partners, it's their business. (We're not discussing here, nor am I in favour of, the aspects of pornography's exploitation of women or children, and the commercial proliferation of hard-core porn, which is far too accessible to young, impressionable minds).
But your lady hates porn, perhaps for those very reasons. Like you said, the damage is done. Move on.

One year ago, my sister married a man who admittedly wanted nothing to do with her school-age sons. However, he expected her to care for his daughter.
When her sons moved in with the new couple, my mom and sisters received daily calls about trouble there.
The boys told me that their step-father put them out of the house. (My sister's unemployed husband explained, that when she's out working, he doesn't feel safe with the boys inside the house, so he puts them out.)
My sister said nothing.
My husband and I have cared for the boys for five months; since they'll be transferring into junior high school, custody is an issue.
My family (mother, siblings) doesn’t want us to pursue legal custody. However, the boys have come to rely on us and our stable environment.
Also, we're both 50 and want to ensure the boys (like our own children now in college) will be taken care of in future.
We've been told that we'd tear my family apart and push their mother even further away.
I love my family and value my mother's opinion.
Should I follow my gut and risk the damage to my family?

- Wits' End

Your care and concern for your nephews is a wonderful model of stability and love these boys will always have in their background.
Getting custody would involve their mother and her husband (and their biological father, if he's alive) so you'll need legal advice as to how to proceed.
Given the family divide, and whatever the mother's reaction will be, I also advise you to start a process of professional counselling, to assess whether this is something you should fight for despite opposition.
My instinct is Yes, since you appear to have the boys' best interests at heart; you already have children and don't seem to have any other personal motive.
However, this major decision should be weighed from all important angles.

I'm 16, with the mind of a twenty-something.
I'm madly in love with a man, 27.
Our friendship started online; when we finally met, we connected.
One night he made moves I'd been waiting for. But my older brother and he got into a huge dispute because of his age, though my parents don't mind.
When he says he loves me, should I believe him?
Also, he has a daughter and wants custody of her.
Should I forget him or ride out our friendship till I'm older?

- Old too Soon

Walk away - your mind may be thinking older but your emotions are reacting age-appropriately for 16.
By contrast, this guy's behaving irresponsibly to express love, which is only confusing you at this stage.
You're certainly not ready to help him raise his daughter, and need to focus on your education and career plans to develop the independence and maturity you seek.