I’ve been suspicious from the get-go about the fidelity of my pilot boyfriend of two-and-a-half years. He lives elsewhere, but we’ve visited each other numerous times.
      Two years ago I found a letter from a woman with four children, proclaiming her love. He explained he’d gotten “more involved as a friend” than he should’ve, but there was nothing more between them.    
      I hired a private detective who discovered a police report: My boyfriend had reported that his vehicle had been scratched and damaged; a woman was with him during the incident - the same woman “friend.” Another woman had done the scratching … it was a love triangle (from the evidence).      
      I have evidence including dozens of Internet postings and responses, confirming his infidelity. I’m having a difficult time believing he’d betray me to this extent.    
      He appeared so sincere in his words and actions, never hesitated to acknowledge that we’re a couple and have a future together. He’s repeatedly said that he loves me.     
      I think I have a Tiger Woods on my hands who’s probably professed love to one or more others. It appears he’s a "Serial Cheater" but I cannot find the courage to stop speaking to him on the phone.     
      I’m in my 40s and perhaps feel this is my last "good" opportunity for a relationship with a handsome, professional, gregarious, fun-loving and easy-going man.
      - Got The Blues

Reality check: Your “opportunities” for happiness will disappear altogether if you stay with this fly-boy jerk.     
      You’re at a perfect age to learn from past mistakes  (you were rightfully suspicious long ago, yet hung in: Never Again). Forget the Tiger Woods comparison – you’re not married and your guy’s no celebrity, so there’s neither a settlement or public support in this case.    
      The sooner you tell him to Fly Away - and don’t answer his calls – the sooner you’ll regain confidence that you can set better standards and find true love.     
      A serial cheater causes serial heartache … run from it!

My boyfriend has two daughters, late-20s, who live elsewhere. When they visit, he makes a car available for them and pays for all their meals in restaurants.      
      They never lift a finger to help with anything. My boyfriend says, "They’re on their holidays." The youngest brought her boyfriend, whom we just met, and gave him a "tour" into our rooms.     
      Both daughters help themselves to the laundry facilities.  When visiting friends and family, I do my laundry when back at home. When we visit them, we have to rent a car. (They have two vehicles). We stay in hotels (the oldest lives in a home worth more than ours). We pay for all the meals. How do I handle future visits?
      - Resenting

Your boyfriend’s obviously trying to please his daughters, possibly making up for his past separation/divorce. Nevertheless, you and he need to decide what’s acceptable and what’s not.    
      If he can afford to treat them, lend cars and stay in a hotel when necessary, so be it. But if it’s affecting your joint budget, you need to talk about not going to unnecessary excess. (If they work, they can pay for some meals when out; he could also ask to borrow a car, when visiting there).     
      You need to try to befriend these women; and explain (gently) some house rules you and your guy agree on beforehand, e.g. no “strangers” going into private rooms. As for laundry, don’t sweat it, so long as you’re not doing it for them.

My father-in-law tied my (unwitting) husband into several shady deals before we married. We legally disentangled ourselves, but years later we still hear of surprise debts or arrangements.       
      My FIL also likes to physically demonstrate our “good” relationship with hugs, touching my shoulder, etc.  I’ve told him firmly to not touch me, but he insists or verbally taunts me.      
      My husband never confronted his father about the bad deals. He’d probably disown us. The family’s close, which means being around him often.
      - Touchy

You don’t like the man, yet fear being “disowned.” If it’s about receiving inheritance, there’s a price to pay now - civility and avoiding his hugs best you can.     
      But if it’s family harmony you’re after, then Unwitting Hubby needs to use his wit to tell his dad he’s an important part of the family, but he must stop touching you. Then, you forget the past mistakes.