My boyfriend of eight months recently ended our relationship because of our constant arguments, usually about dumb tiny things.
When I asked if we could try to improve things, he said he still loves me but the fighting was too much.
Four days later, I asked for a second chance which he politely denied, saying he was sorry but just wanted to be friends now.
Later that night I texted him thanking him for calling me but then he didn’t reply anymore. Two days later he opened my message, didn’t reply, and never said anything to me at school.
The next day he opened my message and didn’t reply. We haven’t talked since.
We’ve seen each other in the hallways at school and at lunch and haven’t said anything to each other.
I’ve decided to do the No Contact 30-day plan and wait for him to say something to me.
One week before he broke up with me, we fought and I was really upset. He begged me to not break up with him because he said our relationship meant too much for it to end.
Is there a chance we will get back together if I go along with that plan?
It doesn’t matter, because it’s your own approach to relationships that needs a re-make first.
Dating someone requires respect – not only for their personality, but also for their private space.
You barraged your guy with constant texts and calls. He likely “begged” you to not break up, because he knew that your way to end it would be death by conversation.
I suspect your many fights were partly related to your need to always discuss something till it exhausted you both.
Start your own second chance, now, by letting any relationship – and there will be others in the future – have time, space, and respect to grow.
It means NOT texting your every thought and demanding a reply, letting the “dumb tiny” disagreements go by, NOT crowding the other person’s time and space, and asking the same for yourself.
Mean while, No Contact means no contact and no expectations or demands when you speak again.
My divorce was completed by my husband's lawyer in 2011. I was at high risk of a heart attack at the time of signing.
Sworn financial statements were never completed.
No claims for property were done. The divorce was granted without my knowing my legal rights.
There’s a pension now estimated at over $1 million and a house worth $400,000. I was promised support/pension/property.
Now my ex says everything is incorrect. He’s threatening me with financial ruin. He took me off his medical benefits. My prescription costs are $400-$500 per month.
Apparently the time limitations for property division have passed. I may never get my property back.
I’ve spent thousands on lawyers and no one’s willing to bring my case to court.
This was an abusive relationship in which he also abuses alcohol. He’s calling me and my daughter crazy. My family are worried about my safety.
We’re being bounced around and are going broke.
Desperately Need Help
You need a fresh legal understanding of your case. You also need to know the avenues for an appeal in your jurisdiction.
Go to a court clinic and bring along all available documentation of property, pension, and other marital assets.
You also need your medical record at the time of divorce and proof of what you did or did not sign.
My sister's divorcing after cheating with a “manipulative” man. She tried only limited counselling.
She’s marrying her “boyfriend,” bringing along three daughters ages ten, eight, and six ( she’ll have shared custody of them).
I can’t accept her new life with this man, whom I've never met. I’m upset that she’s not given her daughters time to adjust before moving them with him.
She has a history of alcohol abuse. I don't want to lose her, but I can't support her decisions.
If ever she and her daughters need you, it’s now. She’s turning to this man because he’s the reason she lost her husband.
Chaos is sometimes a familiar pattern for alcoholics, followed by hasty moves in the hopes of “security.”
It’ll likely be a mess. Those girls will need your interest and awareness when the next drama begins.
Then you can insist on long-term counselling since her joint custody will likely be challenged.
Tip of the day:
Constant analysis by text and chat becomes a fatal blow to relationships.