When I was one-month pregnant, my boyfriend was sending and receiving x-rated pictures and text messages with my cousin. He also emailed other women asking to get together.
When I discovered these messages, he said nothing happened. I demanded he delete the women on his social sites but when I checked, he hadn’t. We argued about the texts for a month, and then I discovered the emails.
I’m now six months pregnant. He has one son from his failed marriage and said he was the one cheated on with previous relationships. Yet he’s being untrustworthy. I need his support through this pregnancy, not betrayal.
I’ve repeatedly asked if he deleted all contact with those women. It seems he feels compelled to cheat and hurt me.
- Frustrated

Focus on your pregnancy. Musing over the past won’t guarantee that you can or cannot trust him in future. Meanwhile, you’re stressing yourself when you most need to preserve your well-being.
Tell your guy that you’ll accept that he’s not cheating. BUT, be clear that if he proves you wrong – and you’ll eventually find out without snooping - you’re done with him. And he’ll have lost another chance to experience family life with his own child.
If you’re not prepared for that scenario, then consider this: Constantly checking up on him will eventually ruin the relationship anyway. Ultimately, you’ll need to weigh your options. But during your pregnancy, bring some calm and peace of mind into your life.

My sister’s upset with me for having missed my niece’s third birthday, because I went elsewhere that day. I intended to attend both events, but my own son, also 3, was very sick and vomiting. So I called to say that we wouldn’t attend party.
I also told her I was going to meet my best friend to give him the engagement ring to propose to his girlfriend after they completed a marathon that day. I said I’d visit her and my niece later.
Later on, she learned that my wife, my sick son and his twin accompanied me. My wife was afraid to be left behind in case our boy’s condition worsened, and the marathon was near the children's hospital, which is where we’d take him.
My sister called me the following day, saying she was offended that I didn’t bother to stop by. I’d explained that evening, that both sons weren’t well and had tantrums. My wife and I each had to comfort a child. So I couldn’t visit, even though I live 15 minutes away. Why can't she see my side of the story?
- Sibling Rift

Too much detail. It seems you and Sis have a close relationship that’s worth preserving; it also seems you share so many details with each other that it opens the door for judgments. Yet you both have your own families and responsibilities, and need to make decisions without worrying about each other’s reactions.
To get past this small (but revealing) rift, apologize to her again for missing the birthday and make a special visit to your niece with her presents.
Stop explaining the day’s events. Frankly, it’s easy for an objective person to see her side, too, since you live so close. However, kids with illness and tantrums are all consuming, and they’re your priority.
There’ll be many more days ahead when both you and Sis will be unable to think first of each other, due to your busy lives with your own families.

My boyfriend and I only started dating after I split from my former boyfriend; I’m falling in love.
He’ll be moving again (for work) in January. I'm afraid that he won't want to continue the relationship as his last one was long-distance and didn't work out.
I’d accept the long distance thing, and want to let him know, but fear pushing the issue or scaring him off since our relationship is still new. Do I tell him? Or wait until he’s gone?
- Uncertain

Three good reasons for keeping mum about the future, for now: 1) Too soon; 2) You’ve both come out of recent relationships; 3) His last one was long-distance.
Let this romance build, and let him be the one to worry that he’ll miss you. If he raises the matter, gently probe what went wrong the last time … e.g. maybe you’d both need to plan scheduled visits, fairly often.