While working at an exhibition several months ago, a fellow manning a booth nearby, and I, noticed each other and exchanged hellos.
When that exhibition took place again months later, he called me over to talk. He then visited my booth on a break, and later told me his work address and said to come by sometime.
Eventually, I called him at work; he wasn't there so I asked for his email. I added him to Facebook, but he didn't add me back. I emailed him, asking him to call me sometime. He then added me, but didn't call.
I sent him a "hello, remember me" message, no response. What's worse is I've seen him twice around my neighbourhood since then! I should mention that I'm currently in a relationship. What does this mean?
It means you're trying to turn "Nothing" into "Something," and add drama to your life, since you're already attached but can't accept this guy's distance.
Or do you have a need for every male you meet to try to pursue you? If so, you shouldn't be in a relationship because you have one foot already out the door.
However, it may also mean that he heard you're in a relationship and wisely doesn't want to get involved with someone who looks disloyal and ready to play around.
My husband and I are considering moving to a farm quite a distance away. It's something we've always wanted to do. But there's a roadblock - my parents.
With the recent birth of my third child, my parents seem to have distanced themselves. They were in love with my firstborn (now 4½), having her over for sleepovers and many visits.
When my second child was born (now 1½), there were fewer visits, less special treatment, and no sleepovers.
They visited once in hospital when my third child was born, and only twice since, these last seven weeks. It seems they're only interested in their first grandchild.
We live 40 minutes from them, and my mother, recently diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, is their main excuse. We've offered to travel there as she's frequently in pain and not very mobile. They decline.
I'm trying to get my parents to show interest, or visit ALL three of their grandchildren, and not play favourites. To confront them creates arguments and more avoidance.
We don't want to move our family further away for fear of less visits or resentment from them, or to upset our oldest child. We know it'll be heartbreaking (even angering) for my parents, but we do want to move to a home where we'll be happy.
Being not happy here, and with less visits, does it make sense to move further? How should I address "playing favourites?"
Your judgement on your parents seems very strong, when it's only been seven weeks since the baby's birth, and your family expansion has happened at the same time as your mother's developing major health problems and debilitating pain.
Think compassionately. The onset of fibromyalgia is very frightening, because of its effect on mobility and comfort. Taking care of grandchildren is a joy, but it requires energy and well being. Your eldest was lucky to have Grandma before she started suffering from this condition.
You can help greatly by insisting on visiting at their place, and building phone and Skype contact for the youngsters.
That said, you have the right to move wherever you and your husband decide. If you do re-locate, re-assure your parents of your intent to visit as often as possible, and set up regular contact they can count on.
I'm still in high school and believe it should be one of the best experiences of your life. I think it would be great to be in a good relationship with a guy in high school.
I've never been in a relationship before; neither have any of my friends. I really like this guy, but he's two years older than me. I don't think he likes me in the way I like him, but he compliments me and treats me really well. What do you recommend?
Eager But Unsure
Enjoy every aspect of high school possible.... after-school activities and clubs, new subjects, school sports teams, etc.
All this will bring you, as a happy, involved, and enthusiastic person, together with many great schoolmates. Then get to know some guys as friends. When one really likes you in the way that you want, so it's mutual, he's the right candidate for a relationship.
Tip of the day:
Flirting when you're already attached can send a signal of looking for trouble.