My best friend is currently seeing a married man. They've secretly dated for two months. Recently, the wife found out. My friend claims he’s now going through the divorce process.
Ever since the relationship started, I told her several times that her position is wrong in so many ways and she needs to get out.
She's not listening. She comes to me when she's sad, worried, or mad about the situation. How can I support my best friend if I don't support her actions?

Torn

She’s not listening so neither should you. You have supported her, by telling her that she’s headed for trouble, and also contributing to the troubles for his wife (perhaps kids, too).

It doesn’t mean that you have to end the friendship, but you must stop being her confidante for something of which you disapprove. Otherwise, you’re unwittingly helping her keep the relationship going…. she has a “drama” and an audience, all part of her illicit/exciting adventure.

Go shopping, see movies together, and stop giving her your ear while upsetting your gut.

I'm a teenager dating my boyfriend for one year. We love each other. But the problem is, he isn't a virgin and I am.

I'm ready to take the next step but every time we get into the heat of the moment, I get nervous and back out.

He claims he'll wait forever but I'm scared one day a female will just throw it at him and he’ll take advantage since I've been holding out on him.

What should I do about having sex with him if I get scared every single time?

I Punk Out

Listen to your body language; it’s speaking smarter than your brain. You “punk out” because you are NOT ready for a whole new phase of this relationship…. and that’s normal and healthy.

The love you feel now is innocent and sweet. But you know perfectly well, things can change… especially when you already believe he can have sex with someone else if it’s thrown at him.

The love you need to feel for the next phase has to include self-confidence that he’ll believe you’re very special to him even when other girls are available, trust that you’ll both use protection, and treat sex as a mature act and not something you have to “prove” to him or yourself or that will be discussed with others, affecting your reputation.

You’re scared, and there are reasons for it. You’re not that confident of him or yourself. Wait till you are, and that you’re sure this is right for YOU.

I’ve been in a relationship for five years. He lives four hours from me and we both have our own houses. He’s supposed to sell his.

He goes back and forth and stays with me for long periods. He gives me some money and pays for groceries. In the winter, we travel down south and I pay my share.

He loves me but I don't love him. There’s no sex; we don't sleep together.

I was married once to a womanizer and am divorced (32 years ago). I had a few relationships but I seem to pick up the wrong ones.

I’m 75 and scared to be on my own. Should I pursue this relationship or quit?

Uncertain

I think you already know the answer… you write of no love, no sex, and no sense of long-term trust. All you’re getting is periodic companionship.

At 75, you want warmth, comfort, and security - all missing here.

I’ve been told that a woman in our building doesn't like me; in fact she does everything to avoid a few others and me.

I know this to be true because of her aloofness and long face when we run into one another. It’s very hurtful.

I have always greeted her with a friendly word and smile. I was told she might be jealous or suffering from low self-esteem. I have considered moving.

Uncomfortable

Be careful whose gossip you listen to… the person informing you may be the one who’s jealous and likes brewing conflict.

Moving is far too disruptive a step when this situation isn’t that difficult to handle. She may be an unhappy person or unwell, her “long face and aloofness” having nothing to do with you. Continue being pleasant, smiling, offering a friendly word. It speaks well of you, which others appreciate.

You don’t need her close friendship, just politeness.