This friend was insulting me on Facebook, so I deleted her. But she looked for things I posted on my other friend's wall, and would comment mean stuff on it.

I messaged her and asked her why. She said I was a whore and a bitch and called me that over and over. I'm only 14. I blocked her, but I'm scared because she's at my school.

This isn't the first time she's harassed me. What should I do?

Scared

Deal with this right away. Tell your parents, ask them to talk to your school principal, or whoever's in charge of the bullying policy there.

Meanwhile, save any evidence you have of her messages and insults, and bring them with you.

Do not be embarrassed to do this. School officials need to see that this is going on, in order to recognize that it's bullying and affects not only you, but any other students who suffer such harassment, and fear.

Your parents also need to know how harmful this kind of communication can be. They may want to contact the girl's parents, and they'd be wise to set up a committee of parents to be more attentive to their children's online activity, especially if threats are involved.

If there's no satisfactory bullying policy at your school, threats, and scaremongering are a matter that should be discussed with the police. At the very least, an officer can talk to school officials about the dangerous outcomes where this activity, if unchecked, can lead.

My mother and I don't get along; we treat each other nicely one day and meanly the next. It's an unhealthy love-hate relationship that's gone on for years, and getting worse.

I've sought help and am open to looking at my faults, but she doesn't believe she has any faults. Also, she's playing family members against me - telling my father bad things about me, making him feel guilty for visiting me, and doing similarly with my sisters.

I need her but she causes me stress. I cannot live with her and cannot live without her. I'm pregnant and worry about the stress affecting the health of my pregnancy. I also worry for my child, as one day, my mother will be Grandma.

She acts really nice to me in front of friends or guests, but it's all a lie. It's having a negative effect on my relationship with my partner.

I seek her attention, love, and approval, which I never get, so I always hope that she'll be different. Her moods are so up and down. During her happy periods, she goes over the top, which also makes me uncomfortable.

She never stops giving her opinion on my relationship in front of my boyfriend, trying to play my boyfriend against me.

I'm addicted to my mother, and to the hope that it'll all change one day.

Endless Love-Hate

Continue with professional therapy and direct it to getting the help for yourself, and your immediate relationships with your partner and future child. Your mother may never change, but you still can.

She may have a personality disorder or mood condition that can't go away without treatment and the willingness to follow it. That's unfortunately her choice.

But you have the foresight to see that this "addiction" and resulting stress can do you far more harm than it's doing her. Break the pattern. For the sake of your child, and for your own chance at happiness as a mother and partner.

Our new granddaughter, 18 months, lives nearby. Our other grandchildren live far away. So we assumed we finally have a chance to be real grandparents!

But, there's no babysitting, no giving a bath, no strolling around the block, etc. We see her every month briefly, always supervised.

Our daughter-in-law obviously doesn't trust us. Our son promises to work on a solution, but nothing's changed.

He admitted that his wife is very controlling. She doesn't even allow him to visit us on his own with the little one.

Hurt

it's her first baby and she fears losing control (not uncommon when a new mother has insecurities about the responsibilities and role).

When you visit, be helpful, but don't try to take over. Show approval of how she bathes and feeds the baby, so she sees you're not challenging her ways.

Invite them all over together. Hopefully, she'll relax when she sees you're an asset!