When my father walked out on my mother for a co-worker of hers, he also totally abandoned me and my brother. We're not allowed to call his home.
There have been two emergency situations in two years, when I've called, and been called names and sworn at by this woman. I'm not allowed to see my father on holidays or birthdays because she's told me I'm not welcome in their home or lives.
My father NEVER stands up for me even when I did nothing wrong.
I'm now 21; my boyfriend and I just bought a house and are planning to get married. I question if my father will show up at my wedding and I don't want my children to go through the rejection I feel with my father now.
He still sends Christmas and birthday gifts, and will, without his wife knowing, take me out to lunch near my birthday. I do the same for his birthdays. I was very close with my father growing up and now I feel a void.
Is it wrong to just write him out of my life?

- Feeling Lost

Yes, its wrong for YOU, since punishing him will only mean punishing yourself with a deeper void.
You still have a relationship with your father, despite his wife's many roadblocks. It's obvious that both you and he want the connection, even though, for whatever reason, he can't override his wife's objections all the time.
You don't have children yet, so stop anticipating worse problems.
As for your wedding, take the high road and invite them both. It's highly unlikely that she'll come, but she won't be able to say that you excluded her. Hopefully, he'll make every effort to show up.
As for the future, keep an open mind as there are undoubtedly aspects to your parents' and this woman's story which you don't know and don't need to know. But your father has shown that he does want to be part of your life, to whatever degree is possible now.

I'm a young, popular college student who's just found out that I've contracted an untreatable STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection) from a previous relationship. I'm afraid that I'll never be able to get intimately involved with someone again.
Am I ruined for life?
Is there any way I can get involved with another woman even if I have this infection?

- Agonizing

Focus on getting accurate information, rather than panicking over imagined worst-case scenarios.
There are many types of STIs, including genital herpes and human papillomavirus (HPV); and you need to know the specifics of your infection so it can be managed, even if not cured.
Of course, you also need to learn about safer sex methods so that you can - and MUST - disclose your STI to potential partners, early on. Your dating period should then become a time for building closeness and trust so you can mutually make informed decisions about your sexual activity together.
Some STI's, such as chlamydia and gonorrhea are curable with antibiotics. Hepatitis, any form of herpes, genital warts, and AIDS/HIV are not curable but there are various treatments available, such as doctor-prescribed medications.

• For more information on STI treatment, see www.hc-sc.gc.ca, and search STI.

I'm 17, my boyfriend of one year is 20, and we've had several issues along the way. He's called me names, started fights over little things that I didn't understand, and the yelling has been constant.
All of that stopped a couple of months ago after he got mad, blew up and pushed me into a wall. I threatened to leave and he promised to change. His temper has defused since then.
Will it come back and put me back in a hellish relationship again? Should I leave?

- In a Rut

You're in an unpredictable and possibly dangerous position, waiting to see if this guy's fury rises up like a volcano again.
You are far too young to accept HIS problem controlling his temper, as your problem too, and a permanent part of your life.
He needs to recognize that he must work on anger management for his own sake, in order to live his adult life without constant disputes and flare-ups with family, friends, co-workers and neighbours.
Meanwhile, make sure that you feel you can leave safely; if not, have someone come over to help you pack up and go.